Love is blind is an old adage. We left it at being an online dating pro. Yes, you met someone, liked their conversation, planned to meet up. Then bam! COVID-19 happened. The only buzzwords now are social distancing, isolation, self-quarantine, and lockdowns.
No one cares about your newly found online love. So, your conversation goes on dwindling down the drain. And after a few days, you join Charlie Puth, “We don’t talk anymore. Like we used to do.” However, not everyone is singing the same tune. There are the few lucky ones who go on talking and falling for each other (or thinking they are) daily.
Before the Tiger King craze took over, most people binging on Netflix were on a series answering: is love really blind? Same love theme of boy meets girl. Boy and girl like each other. Boy and girl meet for the first time. The only difference is they meet in pods. Yes, you read it right. Once an emotional connection is created in the pods, they are engaged and meet up before the big day.
The question is as old as time. From Beauty and the Beast to Cyrano De Bergerac, Sierra Burgess is a Loser, and Love is Blind among others. I can’t say exactly why humanity needs to prove that love is something more powerful than skin-deep beauty. I have to say there is something sweet and eternally compelling about it.
I have to confess I have binged on the series and honestly the participants were all pretty attractive. In my opinion that helped a lot in the transition from pod-love to real-life love and it didn’t fully challenge if or not love is blind. But the beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder so ?♀️?♀️.
With coronavirus, everyone is staying at home. Communication is via phone or video calls. What does it mean for online dating? It’s almost a pod-like situation where you have to build a connection without meeting the other person. So, how do you keep the spark burning without meeting until the corona wave is over?
We are in a crisis and there is so much uncertainty about the future. So, is love really blind to all these? Can it withstand no face-to-face meetings and date nights? A three years study by Chapman University found that attraction based on physical gratification, looks, and happiness are key foundations of long-term relationship success. If the above elements are missing from the start, it’s hard to create a connection strong enough to get to happily-ever-after.
The ‘honeymoon phase’ is great. When you haven’t physically spent enough time with our new lover to be disappointed, hurt, or let down. Everything is all rosy and perfect. You don’t really know the person in totality so love blindness at its peak season.
I love what Susan Winter, a love coach, and relationship expert says, “After the honeymoon phase, reality sets in. Now we can see the positive and negative qualities of our mate. It’s at this point that real love can occur.” This can only happen when you’ve spent enough face-to-face time with a person.
On finding your blind love online
Get out of the box. Expand that age limit a bit, weight, height, or geographical location. Find the most important romantic relationship qualities for you. Then, seek people who meet these standards regardless of their social class or surface looks. Another thing, stop judging a person right off the bat.
My take on whether or not love is blind, it’s complicated. Nevertheless, get into each situation with an open heart but, don’t be blind to the red flags.