It remains a fact that our habits shape us. What we do repeatedly shape us into who we are. The only thing that separates us is our habits, otherwise, we are all the same. Both Confucius and Aristotle have confirmed that. At times, we might feel like life has let us down and we are stagnant on all fronts. Work, personal life, mental health, spirituality, etc. Generally, you are unhappy with where you are in your life. It’s encouraging to know you aren’t alone and this happens to most of us.
The good thing is that we can always change our lives and be better versions than who we are today. Each person is in charge of their own life. Honestly, you will have to put in work, courage, and grit but eventually, you will achieve your goals. No one became successful by just drifting through life, they all took action and had discipline.
In fact, our attitude determines our altitude. Meaning, we should be keener on developing habits that positively influence our attitude. Get rid of old habits that have not shown any results in your life and acquire life-changing ones instead.
The secret to the successful implementation of life-changing habits
It’s not only about acquiring powerful habits but also committing to them and been enthusiastic while implementing them. On average, people fail and repeat resolutions up to ten times before getting it right. And half the people who make resolutions don’t pass the sixth month of implementation.
So, what will make you exceptional?
- Commitment: Get hard on yourself or life will be hard on you. Commit to doing what you have said you will do in spite of it being difficult. With time, it will get easier. Once you make it through the initial conditioning, it gets easier to sustain.
- Patience: At first, you may think the process is too slow and you aren’t accomplishing much. Give it time, little by little, you are moving. Don’t forget that small hinges open big doors.
- Consistency: The only way to make a habit stick is being consistent at it. You have to do it often for you to lock it in.
- Start simple: Making an overhaul of your entire life in a day isn’t possible. Getting overly motivated and taking on too much is easy. However, maintaining that can be tricky. So, if you want to read for 3 hours a day, start with 30 minutes if you never read previously. Slowly build up to 3 hours.
- Get an accountability buddy: Life is a journey and walking alone will wear you out. Have a friend who will constantly encourage you and ensure you don’t quit. One who will call you out on your shit when they see it.
Whenever I am getting into a new habit, I use a habit tracker. I find that it encourages me to keep on being consistent and helps me in self-accountability. You can download it here.
7 Powerful habits to positively change your life
1. Nurture a morning ritual
This gives you a structure to follow instead of just waking up and rushing off. Kick start your day with something that makes you energized and supercharged to face the rest of your day. It’s the best way to relieve stress and mental fatigue. This will ultimately increase your productivity.
Never begin a day without planning for it. In the morning, do the most prioritized work that adds value to your goals.
2. Read and read some more
Creativity and knowledge can only be stimulated when you read. Books build your brain muscle. Through books, you get the opportunity to change, learn something new, experience different emotions, and get a deeper concept of things. Moreover, books increase your focus and tend to calm you making you sleep better. Additionally, they contribute to a healthier brain by slowing down brain degradation as you get older.
3. Practice self-care and be mindful
Pay close attention to what is happening both inside and outside of you. The act of solitude increases your self-awareness making you more in sync with your rational brain. Be present in every single moment of your day, the good and the bad.
Take some time to unwind and do something that makes you happy. Appreciate the good, the little milestones you have made. Love yourself first and be thankful for how fortunate you are. Here are some self-care practices that you can choose to implement.
4. Focus on one task at a time
There is nothing wrong with occasional multi-tasking but constant multitasking contributes to mental clutter. In addition, it lowers efficiency and may lead to cognitive control impairment. Focus on one thing to completion then start the next assignment. Always make a point of starting with the most important task and move to the easier ones along the day.
5. Stop making excuses
You will always find an excuse when you look for one. Part of taking charge of your life is taking ownership of your actions or lack of actions. Get to understand how you’re an enabler of the habits that make you stagnate in life. Push yourself and put in the work as nothing will fall on your lap freely. Yes, we get tired at some point, we procrastinate and do many other things to feed our laziness. It’s high time to get out of your own way and do it.
6. Get rid of distractions and negative energy
If you don’t manage distractions, you end up wasting so much time on them instead of being productive. Particularly, social media has become a major distraction nowadays. Averagely, people spent a minimum of 1hr. 40 minutes on social media platforms daily. The more time people spend on social media, the more likely they are to fall into depression. It’s more than okay to do a social media detox to free yourself from mental clutter and reduce stress. Turn your phone off and reconnect with what’s happening around you.
Additionally, let go of anyone or anything that brings you down. Be with people who lift you up, share happiness and spread positivity. Always work on self-affirmation and not degradation.
7. Don’t put your focus on instant gratification
In this day and age, instant gratification is one thing that drives most of us. Getting what we want now and emphasizing on YOLO (you only live once). Substantive happiness is seductive and many times satisfying as well. Nevertheless, sacrificing your long term goals for momentary happiness is unwise. If you need to exercise, cook with a spouse, work on a project, do it. Don’t Netflix and chill or meet up with a friend for dinner in exchange for what really matters.