Honestly, I am not into self-improvement and motivational books. I am more of the thrillers, sci-fi, and romance book addict. So, if I could read these books, trust me they can give you cavities. Yes, they are that sweet!! . I have compiled a list of well researched and expertly written must-read books.
The one truth in life that will never change is this, “The longest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.” How you relate with yourself will reflect on all other relationships you have. It’s 2019, the #self-love has appeared in so many Instagram photos than I can count. Almost everyone is on a high of it. Honestly, just because the hashtag is there, never equate it to portray confidence. What happens behind the camera daily is what counts.
You can follow these self-love practices if you are not sure of where to start. I have come across many classics on belief in yourself, building confidence, self-esteem, loving yourself, etc. They are all different terms seeking to achieve the same bottom line. Generally, developing a belief in self that you can accomplish whatever you seek out to do.
Over the years, I have learned that confidence isn’t something you have but something you create. Stop putting yourself down all the time saying that you don’t have confidence. I hope reading these books will result in you giving yourself that much-needed hug.
8 must-read books approved by mental health experts
Years of Yes- Shonda Rhimes
I will start with this because it is one of the most real-life inspiration. Plus, it’s Shonda Rhimes. This book is all about ‘how to dance it out, stand in the sun, and be your own person.’ She talks about how she struggled with accepting invitations to public appearances, interviews, and events. Self-esteem, weight, and social anxiety made her fear anything that threatened her comfort zone. She chronicles the years she said yes to all things that scared her and how she decided to embrace new things.
The book is spitting tea on your kindle screen hilarious. I loved the authenticity and vulnerability she portrayed. I repeat, its Shonda Rhimes so it is a must-read book.
You are a Badass- Jen Sincero
Honestly, I was sold out when I saw the title. So, I opened the book and skimmed through the chapters and their titles sealed the deal. The titles included; how to Embrace Your Inner Badass, How You Got This Way, How to Get Over Your B.S. Already, Your Brain Is Your Bitch. After seeing these topics I just went like, “Girl, you got to read this!”
The book is about how to stop self-sabotage and designing a life that you want. She further dives into healthy insights on money, spirituality, and self-perception. How she goes about doing that makes it feel like you are having a conversation with a self-loving and educated girlfriend. It definately has to be under your must-read books list and you can get it here.
The assertiveness guide for women- Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD
If you want to learn how to speak up for yourself, this is the book to read. She talks about how to communicate, set healthy boundaries and transform your relationships. Truthfully, standing up for your self is easier said than done. I love how she has real-life examples and evidence that makes it easy to understand. You get to learn your attachment style, and how it contributes to your assertiveness or lack of.
The biggest bonus is the accompanying workbook guides you in your self-assessment and self-improvement. In addition, the assertive title makes it get into the must-read books.
6 Pillars of Self-esteem- Nathaniel Branden
This is one of the oldies that still give you many ‘Aha!’ moments. It provides you with the building blocks needed to increase your self-esteem. If you are willing and committed to building your esteem, then you will benefit from this read. Take it as a study book; make notes, practice the exercises, and have an open mind to see your worth.
Nathaniel gives you a wake-up call by making you come to terms with the fact that only you are responsible for your self-esteem. He clearly outlines the 6 self-esteem cornerstones: the practices of living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, purposefulness, and integrity.
If you are just beginning in the self-awareness journey or you are a veteran who has already dug into your deeper issues, the book is a goldmine.
Unfu*k yourself- Gary John Bishop
I have to say the titles to his books have a way of drawing you in. From the cover, “Get out of your head and into your life” you feel invited in to flip the pages. I love his writing style and how he puts his message across in a way that slaps you back to deal with your life. He is very good at dishing out TOUGH LOVE.
He has especially written, “Here’s what you’ve forgotten: You’re a fu*king miracle of a being.” Reminding you of your awesomeness and how negative self-talk is standing in your way. It’s hard-core and straight forward truths that set you on fire.
Another must-read book by Gary John Bishop is Stop doing that SH*T: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back. It is part of the Unfu*ck Yourself series.
Beautiful You- Rosie Molinary
With social media, TV shows, and the glitter that we have been made to look up to, our self-worth has been shaken a time or two. Beautiful You is a daily guide to radical self-acceptance. There are so many unreasonable cultural expectations on us to behave and look a certain way.
It’s a book that taught me to say “eff that” and ditched self-criticism. Rosie has simple nuggets that are true and you can resonate with making the book digestible. Additionally, she has a 365-day plan for self-confidence and self-love. Very simple and basic tasks that guide you towards self-improvement.
The gifts of Imperfections- Brené Brown
This must-read book has made her very popular on TED talks. It is a guideline on how to live life from a place of worthiness. It has a way of changing how you feel about yourself, how to be authentic, and how to stop comparing yourself with others. I especially love how she makes it clear that productivity doesn’t equate to self-worth. Another thing that stood out to me is the fact that she makes it known that what you do daily is what makes a change. The repeated daily activities that we sometimes think are mundane.
Anyone who likes to be in control of every aspect of their life, this book is for you. This book will guide you towards moving away from that. If you want to lead a more thoughtful life, whole-hearted life, cultivate a positive mindset and feel better about yourself read this book.
The Self-love Experiment- Shannon Kaiser
Shannon Kaiser 15 principles to total self-acceptance provide a practical guide on self-love patterns and behavior. To get into a relationship with yourself you should dive into this book. No one is perfect and accepting the good and the not so good in ourselves is the beginning of the journey.
It is one of the books that bring your self-appreciation to another level. You learn self-care, compassion, letting go of your past, and being present in your life. Moreover, she was listed as one of the “top 100 women to watch in wellness” by Mind Body Green. This makes her wellness books fall under the must-read books category.